This is Part 1 of a 6-part blog series. Here’s the scenario: my best friend has come to me and wants to know exactly what to do to get in shape for her family summer vacation. In 6 steps, here is exactly what I’d tell her to do.
I dug out my summer shorts today and promptly had a mini-freak out. It’s seems so trivial to worry about what my body looks like but let’s be honest. We wanna look good this summer, amiright? You probably have a summer trip all planned and while you’re excited to take a break, you’re also a little nervous about donning the dreaded swim suit. So before you embark on “OMG, the most perfect diet ever” to get beach ready, let’s chat about the often over-looked first step to any health and fitness endeavor.
Step #1: Get real clear on WHY the hell you’re doing this.
Because let me tell you, when you’re super hungry one afternoon and everyone around you is munching on the devil’s candy (otherwise known as Pirate’s Booty…seriously, that stuff is laced with crack!) or you don’t want to do one more goddamn burpee, you’re going to need to refer back to this “why”.
And I don’t mean that flippant “I want to look good in a bikini for once” comment. I want you to dig deep, like real deep. Keep drilling down to why looking good in a bikini even matters to you. And then ask why that matters. Until you feel it like an elephant on your chest or tears are stinging your eyes, you haven’t gone deep enough.
Here are three questions to ask yourself to get you on the right path to discovering your “why”. Grab some paper and write the answers out. Taking them from swirling thoughts in your head you tend to ignore when they cause you pain, to concrete black & white words, will make you sit up and pay attention.
- How will my summer vacation be different if I take the next 30-60 days and give it my all in the health & fitness department? Be very descriptive. Envision how you’ll act, what you’ll wear, the things you’ll do, how you’ll feel.
- What are the benefits to saying “forget this crap” and not changing your diet & not working out? Seriously, there has to be benefits that you’re already enjoying by not addressing your weight. Maybe you really enjoy those 2 (okay, 5) hours you spend on Netflix. Maybe you don’t want to eat vegetables all day long. Maybe you don’t have to face failing at losing weight yet again if you don’t even try. Maybe if you stay out of shape you can use that as an excuse not to do those things you say you want to eventually do but haven’t because you’re scared.
In case you’re wondering, this is not a super fun question to answer but your answers should be very informative. Your answers are showing you the exact blocks or faulty beliefs that are holding you back from success. Pay close attention to them as changing these same beliefs is the key to finally succeeding.
- What do I want my new beliefs around health & fitness to be? Take a look at your answers to question two and flip the belief on its head. Here are some examples: I’d rather workout really hard for 30 minutes and then veg out watching Netflix knowing I put myself first. I’m curious to try vegetables again to see which ones I actually like. Trying a diet and failing doesn’t mean I AM a failure…it just means I haven’t found the right solution for me yet. I can’t wait to try new things knowing that I’m strong and I can do scary things.
Now your turn. Don’t even think of putting that pen down and skipping this step. This is the magic one, my darling. Write down your new beliefs. Get crazy with it!
Nice job! You did the tough inner work, that first step to the fit beach body you want so badly. Keep your sheet of paper handy as you’ll be looking at it every day for the next 30-60 days. Read through the description of how your vacation will look when you hit your goals. By the way, did you notice that nowhere in your description of your goals in question one did your scale weight come up? That’s because we don’t really care so much about that right now. No one on vacation will be asking you for your weight (except if you decide to go skydiving, which in that case, honesty is always the best policy). We can use scale weight as one of our measures of progress, but it’s not really your end goal, is it? So quit giving it so much power!
You have your goals. You have your “why”. You’re mentally ready. Now go out there and build the body you want!
Next up: what the hell should you eat?? Coming soon…..